Updated: Nov 3, 2020
Fear is one of the most common reasons for stifling a great idea or ones progress towards a goal. On a number of occasions, mentees and mentors alike have shared a brilliant idea they never implemented out of fear. We get one life. Spread your wings and jump. Jump like your legacy depends on it - because it does. The only thing you have to lose are the chains binding you towards your destiny. I want you to reach your destiny!
This phrase glared at me as I bopped to Miranda Lambert while traveling across the country alone in my car. Whoa, I thought... let me process this.
Sometimes you just want revenge… sometimes you just want the world to know the other side's fault in the matter… It seems so unfair that they are forming decisions against you with only one side of the argument. But damn. Miranda's lyrics were spot on. There is no way around proving how wrong they were or how right I was, without appearing petty, pressed or pessimistic.
Because, no matter how grave their infraction towards you, should you speak up from a place of retaliation, you risk tarnishing a bit of your reputation. There will be those who may discern your reaction as uncouth, or question your ability to restrain from future muddying of waters in other situations that don't end as you hoped for.
I am not suggesting it’s easy to walk away from seeking revenge. I do however challenge you to consider, whether the very person who has already withdrawn mind space, heart space or anything else for that matter is ALSO worth the potential spots on your reputation.
The first time I heard this phrase was in a song produced by my son Tyshawn. Hate is such a weak emotion. It stuck with my core. He is so right. At that very moment, I realized all of the people who would hate on me were weak minded. Many of them were uber successful, had major platforms and seemed to have it all. What a shift this one verse made in my life. Now when I encounter haters, I have a purview into their mind and thank God, I was not given this character flaw. It truly is such a weak emotion.
